Continually caring for, assisting, and showing love to someone who is a victim of stroke is difficult and it’s difficult every day. I wake up to stroke every morning and I don’t know what stroke-related behaviors I’ll see in Albert on any given day. Today negativity and ungratefulness showed up.
Albert woke up this morning angry and argumentative. I’m not sure why he was angry, but I would be the target of his wrath; the harshness of his broken speech, the lashing out by yelling non-sensical words loudly, and afterward, given the silent treatment for days sometimes weeks at a time.
I prepared myself mentally for what was coming. This wasn’t the first time that Albert behaved this way, and it wouldn’t be the last time. Also, throughout this behavior, I’m still Albert’s primary caregiver making sure that his needs were met by providing him food, medical, emotional, and spiritual support, and more. Some days the emotional rollercoasters we go through are crazy.
I don’t know how I would be able to support or care for Albert during these times without having a relationship with God and having faith in his Word. Without God, I don’t think that I would have a desire to provide a loving home for him at times.
As caregivers, we work full-time inside and outside of the home, take care of our childrent and grandchildren, we pay bills, take our loved ones to doctor appointments, buy groceries, cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner, take care of the house, and so much more. We give love, plan, organize, and keep our families and households running and intact.
We give care to our disabled loved ones for many different reasons receiving few thank yous and little gratitude. We are the Unseen Queens.
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